That horrible in-between stage

R. and J. are both in "in-between" stages with naps. R. is between needing one and not. He can make it to the end of the day without a nap, but he is cranky and sleepy by about 4. Plus I have to watch him continuously later in the afternoon to keep him from going to sleep somewhere. Also, it is impossible to put him in the car or he falls asleep. But, I can't MAKE him take a nap earlier, because he just won't fall asleep!

R. asleep under the computer desk while I was typing!

J. is between needing two naps and one. So, the same thing happens to him. If he naps too early in the day, he is just like R. at the end of the day. If he naps too late, he doesn't need a second nap until about 6:30 in which case IT'S TOO LATE TO NAP!

J. finally dropped at 11pm after having napped from 6-8!

The additional irritation is that NEITHER of them sleeps well at night anymore. I am insane from them coming in our room (both of them) every night. No matter how many times we walk them back to their rooms, they stay in their own beds for about 30 minutes and them come right back. Not to mention that they don't sleep well with others. They both fuss and kick all night if anything touches them--another person (that happens when there are 4 people in a bed) or even the sheets! J. hates to be covered, R. wants the covers all the way up to his neck! And J.'s diaper leaks EVERY night! He is in size 5s! They are fine in the day--anyone know if there are better diapers for night time?

ANY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE SO VERY WELCOME!!!!!!